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Welcome To Love This Therapy

Grief Counselling  In Surrey, BC

Are you experiencing grief?

Grief touches us all. Whether it comes after the loss of a loved one, a relationship, a job, a pet, or a dream—we are never quite the same afterward. At Love This Therapy, we honour the complexity of grief and walk alongside you through the heartbreak, confusion, and quiet moments of connection with who you are becoming through this loss and transition.

If you’re here, you may be feeling the weight of loss. Maybe your world feels unrecognizable. Maybe people around you have moved on, but you haven’t. Or maybe you’re not sure what you’re feeling, just that something has changed, and you don’t know how to get back to yourself.

Grief has no timeline. It looks different for everyone. And there’s no “right way” to mourn.

At Love This Therapy, our experienced and compassionate therapists offer grief counselling to support you at every stage of your grieving process, with warmth, non-judgment, and gentle guidance.

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Understanding Grief

Grief is the emotional, cognitive, physical, and spiritual reaction to loss. Grief can be triggered by:

  • Loss of a loved one
  • Divorce or separation
  • Miscarriage or fertility struggles
  • Loss of a pet
  • Retirement or job loss
  • A major life transition (such as moving, health changes, or aging)
  • Loss of identity, community, or a long-held dream
  • The loss of a belief system

 

Grief can show up in many ways, some expected and others surprising. You might experience:

  • Numbness or disbelief
  • Deep sadness 
  • Depression
  • Crying spells
  • Anger or irritability
  • Guilt or regret
  • Anxiety or panic
  • Difficulty sleeping or eating
  • A sense of emptiness or purposelessness
  • Physical symptoms like fatigue, headaches, or chest tightness

 

You may even question your identity or your faith or feel disconnected from others. This is all normal. Grief can shake the foundations of who we are and how we see the world.

 

Types of Grief We Support

Grief isn’t one-size-fits-all. At Love This Therapy, our counsellors are trained to support a wide spectrum of grief experiences, including:

Grieving a loss that hasn’t happened yet—like a loved one with a terminal illness, or the slow loss of abilities due to chronic illness or aging.
When grief feels stuck or overwhelming for a long period of time, making it hard to function in daily life. You may feel intense yearning, numbness, or difficulty accepting the loss.
Losses that involve trauma—such as accidents, suicide, overdose, or witnessing a death—can leave behind symptoms of PTSD, including nightmares, flashbacks, and hypervigilance.
Grief that is not socially recognized or validated—such as the loss of a pet, an ex-partner, an affair partner, or a non-biological parent. This can make grief feel invisible and isolating.
Loss related to historical or generational trauma, climate grief, or the loss of language, culture, and community due to colonization or displacement.

We hold space for all types of loss, and we honour your grief—no matter how invisible it may feel to others.

 

How Grief Counselling Can Help

Grief counselling creates a safe, supportive space where you can tell your story, express your emotions, and process the layers of your experience, at your own pace.

At Love This Therapy, we don’t rush grief. We don’t try to fix it. We help you make space for it, and slowly, gently, integrate it into your life in a way that feels more bearable.

Our counsellors are here to help you:

  • Navigate the emotional ups and downs of loss
  • Cope with complicated or “disenfranchised” grief (e.g., losses that aren’t always acknowledged by society)
  • Honour your loved one or loss in meaningful ways
  • Work through unresolved feelings or trauma associated with the loss
  • Reconnect with your sense of purpose and identity
  • Find language for what feels unspeakable
  • Learn how to live with grief, not around it

 

Whether your loss is recent or long ago, sudden or expected, we meet you where you are. Some people seek grief counselling days after a loss; others come to us years later. There is no expiry date on grief.

Modalities We Use in Grief Counselling

Grief is deeply personal, and so is the way we support you. Our therapists use a variety of therapeutic modalities tailored to your needs, preferences, and the nature of your loss. Some of the approaches we offer include:

Grief brings up big emotions—some expected, others surprising. EFT helps you safely explore these feelings, make sense of emotional patterns, and transform overwhelming pain into meaningful understanding and connection. It’s especially helpful when emotions feel stuck or confusing.
Grief doesn’t just live in our minds—it lives in our bodies too. Somatic therapy helps you tune into physical sensations, tension, and energy held in the body. Through grounding, breathwork, movement, or touch-based awareness, we support your nervous system in processing grief on a physiological level, helping you feel more regulated and present.
Loss changes the story of who we are. Narrative therapy gives you space to re-tell your story, honour the person or thing you lost, and explore how your identity is shifting. It’s especially helpful for creating meaning after loss and integrating grief into your ongoing life story.

When grief is accompanied by depression, anxiety, or overwhelming guilt, CBT can help untangle distressing thoughts, beliefs, and behaviours. We work with you to gently challenge harmful narratives and cultivate more self-compassion and emotional resilience.

Mindfulness helps you stay present with what is—without judgment or resistance. Through guided meditation, breath awareness, and acceptance-based tools, we support you in being with your grief rather than pushing it away. This can be a powerful way to find calm during periods of overwhelming emotions.
Sometimes, grief is tangled up with trauma—like when a loss is sudden, violent, or witnessed firsthand. In these cases, the brain can become “stuck” in the trauma, making it difficult to fully process the grief. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a powerful, evidence-based therapy that helps the brain reprocess distressing memories, so they no longer feel as overwhelming. EMDR can reduce flashbacks, panic, or body-based distress linked to a traumatic loss, creating more space for the natural grieving process to unfold. Many people find that once the trauma softens, they can connect with their emotions and memories in a more grounded, healing way.
Sometimes, words just aren’t enough to express the depth of our grief. Art therapy offers a gentle, creative outlet to explore and process complex emotions. Through drawing, painting, collage, or other artistic mediums, clients can express what feels too overwhelming or unclear to say aloud. Art can help externalize the pain, offer symbolic meaning, and foster moments of calm or insight. It’s especially helpful for those who feel stuck, numb, or disconnected as well as for children who may have a difficult time putting their feelings into words.
Children naturally process their world through play—not through long conversations. Play therapy gives grieving children a developmentally appropriate way to express their emotions, explore their fears, and regain a sense of safety and control. Through toys, games, storytelling, and imaginative play, kids can communicate what they may not have the words for. A trained play therapist helps the child gently explore themes of loss, separation, and change while building emotional regulation, resilience, and trust. For many children, play becomes the language of healing.
When children are grieving, they often don’t have the words to explain what they’re feeling—but their play speaks volumes. Sand-tray therapy offers a safe and soothing space for children to express their inner world using miniature figures, natural objects, and a tray of sand. As they build scenes and tell stories through their creations, children can process emotions like sadness, fear, confusion, or anger in a way that feels natural and non-threatening. This therapeutic play helps them make sense of loss, regain a sense of control, and feel seen—without pressure to talk before they’re ready.

What to Expect in Grief Counselling

Grief is not a linear process. You might feel better one day and overwhelmed the next. Our approach is gentle and flexible, allowing your needs to guide the process.

In your sessions, you may:

  • Tell the story of your loss
  • Explore how your grief affects your thoughts, emotions, body, and relationships
  • Unpack complex feelings like guilt, anger, or relief
  • Learn coping tools for grief waves and triggers
  • Explore spiritual or existential questions
  • Create rituals or memory projects to honour your loss
  • Rebuild hope, meaning, and connection

Grief in Children and Teens

Children and youth grieve differently than adults. They may not have the words to describe what they’re feeling, and their grief may show up in behaviour, sleep, or play.

Our child and teen grief counsellors use age-appropriate, creative, and compassionate approaches to help young people express themselves, feel safe, and process their loss in ways they can understand.

We also support parents and caregivers navigating their own grief while trying to support their children.

Why Choose Love This Therapy?

At Love This Therapy, we believe grief isn’t something to fix—it’s something to honour. We understand that loss reshapes us, and that healing unfolds slowly, in its own time, with the support of someone who truly sees you.

That’s why we offer more than counselling—we offer presence, attunement, and steady companionship through the hardest moments. Whether your grief is fresh or long-held, quiet or loud, we meet you where you are.

Here’s what you can expect from us:

  • Skilled and compassionate therapists with specialized training in grief and bereavement
  • Trauma-informed, inclusive, and culturally sensitive support
  • Flexible care options, including both in-person and virtual sessions

We’re here to witness your pain without rushing it. To walk beside you—not ahead of you. To help you carry what feels too heavy to bear on your own.

If your heart is aching, please know: you are not broken. You are grieving. And even in the depths of sorrow, healing is possible—not by returning to who you were, but by gently becoming who you’re meant to be, shaped by both love and loss.

When you’re ready, we’re here.

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